Four Ways To Get Along With Anybody with Jackie Simmons

YBOP Intro/Outro: 00:00:06

Welcome back to Your Brain On Positive. All the love and support you need is residing inside of you. And we're going to make it easier to turn it on.

Jackie Simmons: 00:00:23

Hey, hey, hey, welcome back. This is Jackie Simmons, and I am here with you with my four step system on how to get along with anybody how to respond positively to everything. They all start with the letter A. So it's really very, very simple.

Jackie Simmons: 00:00:38

But here's where it applies. If someone gives a reaction to a Facebook post, or they make a comment on a Facebook post, the first thing you want to do if it's a reaction, go private. Send them a private message. Thank you for liking Harding, laughing whatever it is they did my post about that's called appreciate Thank you acknowledge what they did and what it was about, because they won't remember by the time you get back to them, even if it was just seconds. So thank you for reacting whichever way they racked it, keep it personal. Acknowledge, appreciate and acknowledge. The second thing is those two, okay, first and second, third.

Jackie Simmons: 00:01:26

Ask ask for what you want. Next. If you made a post and they reacted to it, and your they commented on it, we'll talk about in just a second. They reacted to it, you want to know, hey, if this is interesting to you, would it be okay, if I sent you more information? If this is interesting to you? Would it be okay? If I invited you into the group? If this is interesting to you? You know, it is interesting to them? Because they react it? Would it be okay if I send you a link about it? Whatever that is, if they made a comment, you just start by publicly appreciating and acknowledging and then go private, appreciate, acknowledge and ask, says it the first three A's. This works in your personal world as well. Even if your initial reaction is annoyance, you are annoyed by what someone? Did you get angry by what someone did take a deep breath, calm yourself down and go What about what they did? Can I appreciate? What is it about what they did that I can acknowledge that's a good thing. Gotta keep it positive guys, we live in a negative world, you have a natural negative bias in your brain. This is how you retrain your brain towards the positive in all your relationships, whatever you are responding to a reaction on Facebook, a comment on a social media post an email and action that someone took whatever it is, take a deep breath, what is it about this I can appreciate? What is it about this I can acknowledge in a positive way? What request can I make of them that will improve my mood and attitude, my world my bank account whatever it is, that will improve their world, their attitude and their bank account? What is the ask? Appreciate appreciating knowledge, ask. And the fourth A is allow, allow them to be themselves allow them to respond however they respond. If they say yes, you can send me the link. Great. Send them the link. If they say yes, you can send me the link. And this is why I started the beginning. Appreciate acknowledge, ask if they got the link and allow whatever next comes up in personal relationships appreciating knowledge. Oh, thank you, I hadn't realized that was a problem.

Jackie Simmons: 00:03:54

The way you handled it was effective. It might not have been nice. It might not have been easy. It might not have felt good. But it was effective. How do we know it got your attention. So you can appreciate the fact that they got your attention, you can acknowledge the fact that they got your attention that they woke you up from the habitual way you've been thinking and then you can ask for how you would like for them to handle something in the future. You can also share how you think you will handle it in the future. Don't ask them to change to be you but ask them for what you want. In the future. I'd appreciate it if you texted me first. In the future. I'd appreciate it if you said that to me in private. In the future. I'd appreciate it again, you're back to appreciation. They already know that you appreciate them because you've told them they know that you're paying attention because you acknowledge what they did in a positive regard. Now you're making an ask from a place of appreciation. I I'd appreciate it it or would it be okay FYI and you are getting their permission. And then you just allow them to be who they are. If you follow these steps, your whole anxiety quotient will drop down, your anger will drop down. Why? Because it has to, you've broken the habitual way of responding. If you typically get annoyed, or you typically get angry, this is the way to interrupt that. And once you have interrupted that old pattern, you immediately have these four steps to fill in that blank, because nature abhors a vacuum. So you break a habit, replace it with a better habit immediately. So I would just like to say thank you for watching this. I appreciate your taking the time to be part of my world. If you like this, please not. Please react, respond. Give me a thumbs up, give me a thumbs down if you don't like it, but engage with it. Put in a comment. Where will you apply the four A's of appreciated knowledge ask and allow share, where will this be useful to you and just know this will be going up on the your brain on positive podcast at some point. So when it does Be on the lookout, you can head over to your brain on positive and subscribe so that when we drop new episodes, you get them. There's also a your brain on positive Facebook group that you can join if you want to continue the conversation and that's where this video will be shared next. So thank you for your time and attention and may all of your relationships improve.